Resilience in the making
In 2019 The Selwyn Institute focused on Resilience in the context of ageing and wellbeing. Little did anyone know that so early in 2020, with the onset of the global COVID-19 pandemic, that the learnings would be so relevant and useful.
Given the importance of resilience at this time—particularly for caregivers, people in lock-down, or those doing their utmost to keep positive in these challenging times—some thoughts on the topic might be of help.
The definition itself is empowering
Resilience is the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats or significant sources of stress — such as family and relationship problems, serious health issues or workplace and financial stressors. It means, "bouncing back" from difficult experiences. In the case of the COVID-19 ‘lock down’, it also means tapping in the well or resolve to remain upbeat and connected.
Kindness is part of the equation
Kindness, compassion, and giving are known to boost mental well-being and resilience. Whether you’re on the giving or receiving end there are shared benefits and opportunities to consider.
- We’re all social distancing, so how are you finding ways to give from afar? Time, and social contact through technology connections, are worthwhile ‘investments’.
- Are you finding that you’re more patient with others knowing everyone is going through a difficult time? How has the pandemic made you more empathetic?
- What about self-compassion? How are you being kinder and more giving to yourself right now?
Speaker at the Selwyn Institute Aging and Spirituality Conference 2109, Dr Lucy Hone, says resilience is helpful to:
- Overcome the obstacles of childhood (poverty, abuse, neglect)
- Steer through everyday stresses (injury, bullying, rage, anxiety)
- Adapt to major life changes/loss (death, divorce, illness)
- Reach out (take on new challenges)
She recommends taking the time to choose where you focus your energy and attention. Particularly at this time of uncertainty. She recommends being mindful to understand that struggle is part of life.
Understand that struggle is part of life
Be focused on what you hope to happen, or achieve, each day.
Be kind and helping and avoid harmful thoughts, actions or experiences.
Gratitude leads to resilience.
Three mindsets Hone in on the benefits of stopping to acknowledge reasons to be thankful. Take the time each day working with these formulas.
3GT = 3 Good Things
HTGS = Hunt the Good Stuff
ATG = Accept the good.